The Untapped Power Of The Self Image

People spend a lot of time worrying about what other people think.

Spoiler alert: they aren’t because, just as you are, they worry and think about themselves.

Still, the way we perceive ourselves has a significant impact on other people.

The story of “The Man with the Scar”:
“There once was a salesman, one of the best among the best. To put it short, he could sell ice to Eskimos. But his story took a tragic turn, after an accident he was left with a scar on his face. To his wife and the people around him, this obviously was something new at first, but it didn’t change the fact that the man was an attractive and magnetic person. It did for the salesman though. He hated seeing himself in the mirror, he stopped looking people in the eyes, and his self-love and confidence sank from day to day. He lost his unique charm. And as time went by, the people around him started to perceive him as he was perceiving himself - ugly.

On the other hand, there was a young medical student, popular, confident, and full of life - a lady’s boy as well, you might want to add*. Same as the salesman, he too had a scar on his face (an even bigger one), but he wore his with pride. He got his scar during fencing - but he showed it off as an American would show his medal of honor.”  

What do we take from the story? - You actively decide if you succeed in life or not.

It's scientifically proven that there are "success-type personalities" and "failure-type personalities."

A person who thinks “I’m bad at [insert thing]” will find a way to fail at the certain [thing] and, in doing so, confirm to themselves that they are bad. Not noticing they are ‘actively’ drawing the bad energy towards them.

Take a high school girl for example:

“I’m so ugly, nobody likes me, nobody wants to go to prom with me.” - That’s her self-image. That’s how she perceives herself, and surprise, surprise, nobody speaks with the girl. What does that do? It confirms the girl's statement, and now she can continue drowning in self-pity.

But what does the girl not notice?

Her negative self-image creates a bad energy around her, bad posture, looking down on the floor, and if someone wants to talk to her she shows no emotion and doesn’t keep eye contact.

She presents herself to the outside world as she perceives herself on the inside. In doing so, she gets confirmed in the way she thinks about herself.

Now, let's compare the same girl but a few years later. She worked on herself, started going to the gym, and took the first step in approaching people. The stretchmarks she used to be insecure about now make her look unique and boost her confidence.

What’s her impact now on people, you think?

In short, you will act like the sort of person you convince yourself to be.

People will make excuses and blame genetics. Stop blaming anyone but you, grab life by the balls and fu*king make it. (rooting for you)

Thanks for reading

Mika “highschool girl” Langmann